Live for the now.
As in take this moment and make it yours. Do what you need to get it done. Have something that you have been putting off? No longer. Get it done.
A guy, that frequents the same Starbucks as I do, said the same -to that effect.
It's not a new concept. Not really a rehash of an old one either. Just a matter of fact statement of what his view in life is right now. From what I know about him, according to him, he has never held a job (working for someone else). He recently took up a job, at his doctor's request, as a commisionaire. For health reasons.
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04 August 2009
16 April 2009
Why do we have sex?
Top 50 reasons MEN have sex:
1. I was attracted to the person.
2. It feels good.
3. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.
4. It’s fun.
5. I wanted to show my affection to the person.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I was "horny."
8. I wanted to express my love for the person.
9. I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
10. I wanted to please my partner.
11. The person’s physical appearance turned me on.
12. I wanted the pure pleasure.
13. I was "in the heat of the moment."
14. I desired emotional closeness (i.e., intimacy).
15. It’s exciting, adventurous.
16. The person had a desirable body.
17. I realized I was in love.
18. The person had an attractive face.
19. The person really desired me.
20. I wanted the adventure/excitement.
21. I wanted to feel connected to the person.
22. I wanted the experience.
23. It was a romantic setting.
24. The person caressed me.
25. The person made me feel sexy.
26. It seemed like the natural next step in my relationship.
27. I wanted to increase the emotional bond by having sex
28. I wanted to keep my partner satisfied.
29. The opportunity presented itself.
30. It just happened.
31. I wanted to intensify my relationship.
32. I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions.
33. My hormones were out of control.
34. The person was too "hot" (sexy) to resist.
35. I was curious about my sexual abilities.
36. I wanted to improve my sexual skills.
37. I wanted to become one with another person.
38. I saw the person naked and could not resist.
39. The person was a good kisser.
40. I wanted to feel loved.
41. I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion.
42. The person was too physically attractive to resist.
43. It was a special occasion.
44. I hadn’t had sex for a while.
45. The person had beautiful eyes.
46. I wanted to communicate at a "deeper" level.
47. I wanted to experiment with new experiences.
48. The person was intelligent.
49. I wanted to keep my partner happy.
50. I was curious about what the person was like in bed.
And now for the women:
Top 50 reasons WOMEN have sex:
1. I was attracted to the person.
2. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.
3. It feels good.
4. I wanted to show my affection to the person.
5. I wanted to express my love for the person.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I was "horny."
8. It’s fun.
9. I realized I was in love.
10. I was "in the heat of the moment."
11. I wanted to please my partner.
12. I desired emotional closeness (i.e., intimacy).
13. I wanted the pure pleasure.
14. I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
15. It’s exciting, adventurous.
16. I wanted to feel connected to the person.
17. The person’s physical appearance turned me on.
18. It was a romantic setting.
19. The person really desired me.
20. The person made me feel sexy.
21. The person caressed me.
22. It seemed like the natural next step in my relationship.
23. I wanted to become one with another person.
24. It just happened.
25. I wanted to increase the emotional bond by having sex.
26. I wanted the experience.
27. I wanted the adventure/excitement.
28. The person had an attractive face.
29. The person was a good kisser.
30. I wanted to intensify my relationship.
31. My hormones were out of control.
32. I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions.
33. I wanted to feel loved.
34. The person had a desirable body.
35. I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion.
36. I wanted to communicate at a "deeper" level.
37. I was curious about sex.
38. It was a special occasion.
39. The person was intelligent.
40. I wanted to say "I’ve missed you."
41. I wanted to keep my partner satisfied.
42. I got "carried away."
43. The opportunity presented itself.
44. The person had a great sense of humor.
45. I wanted to improve my sexual skills.
46. I was curious about my sexual abilities.
47. The person seemed self-confident.
48. I wanted to make up after a fight.
49. I was drunk.
50. I was turned on by the sexual conversation.
Your Turn:
Why do you have sex? Is it for one of the reasons above? Or some better reason? That can even include self pleasure.
1. I was attracted to the person.
2. It feels good.
3. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.
4. It’s fun.
5. I wanted to show my affection to the person.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I was "horny."
8. I wanted to express my love for the person.
9. I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
10. I wanted to please my partner.
11. The person’s physical appearance turned me on.
12. I wanted the pure pleasure.
13. I was "in the heat of the moment."
14. I desired emotional closeness (i.e., intimacy).
15. It’s exciting, adventurous.
16. The person had a desirable body.
17. I realized I was in love.
18. The person had an attractive face.
19. The person really desired me.
20. I wanted the adventure/excitement.
21. I wanted to feel connected to the person.
22. I wanted the experience.
23. It was a romantic setting.
24. The person caressed me.
25. The person made me feel sexy.
26. It seemed like the natural next step in my relationship.
27. I wanted to increase the emotional bond by having sex
28. I wanted to keep my partner satisfied.
29. The opportunity presented itself.
30. It just happened.
31. I wanted to intensify my relationship.
32. I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions.
33. My hormones were out of control.
34. The person was too "hot" (sexy) to resist.
35. I was curious about my sexual abilities.
36. I wanted to improve my sexual skills.
37. I wanted to become one with another person.
38. I saw the person naked and could not resist.
39. The person was a good kisser.
40. I wanted to feel loved.
41. I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion.
42. The person was too physically attractive to resist.
43. It was a special occasion.
44. I hadn’t had sex for a while.
45. The person had beautiful eyes.
46. I wanted to communicate at a "deeper" level.
47. I wanted to experiment with new experiences.
48. The person was intelligent.
49. I wanted to keep my partner happy.
50. I was curious about what the person was like in bed.
And now for the women:
Top 50 reasons WOMEN have sex:
1. I was attracted to the person.
2. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.
3. It feels good.
4. I wanted to show my affection to the person.
5. I wanted to express my love for the person.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I was "horny."
8. It’s fun.
9. I realized I was in love.
10. I was "in the heat of the moment."
11. I wanted to please my partner.
12. I desired emotional closeness (i.e., intimacy).
13. I wanted the pure pleasure.
14. I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
15. It’s exciting, adventurous.
16. I wanted to feel connected to the person.
17. The person’s physical appearance turned me on.
18. It was a romantic setting.
19. The person really desired me.
20. The person made me feel sexy.
21. The person caressed me.
22. It seemed like the natural next step in my relationship.
23. I wanted to become one with another person.
24. It just happened.
25. I wanted to increase the emotional bond by having sex.
26. I wanted the experience.
27. I wanted the adventure/excitement.
28. The person had an attractive face.
29. The person was a good kisser.
30. I wanted to intensify my relationship.
31. My hormones were out of control.
32. I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions.
33. I wanted to feel loved.
34. The person had a desirable body.
35. I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion.
36. I wanted to communicate at a "deeper" level.
37. I was curious about sex.
38. It was a special occasion.
39. The person was intelligent.
40. I wanted to say "I’ve missed you."
41. I wanted to keep my partner satisfied.
42. I got "carried away."
43. The opportunity presented itself.
44. The person had a great sense of humor.
45. I wanted to improve my sexual skills.
46. I was curious about my sexual abilities.
47. The person seemed self-confident.
48. I wanted to make up after a fight.
49. I was drunk.
50. I was turned on by the sexual conversation.
Your Turn:
Why do you have sex? Is it for one of the reasons above? Or some better reason? That can even include self pleasure.
19 July 2008
103 questions raised
One Hundred & Three Questions People Might Ask
001. Whens the last time you ran?
At our camp racing away from my oldest son!
002. Do your jeans have rips, tears, and holes in them?
Yes, one of my work pants has a hole right below the zipper.
03. What are you dreading right now?
counting things
004. Do you celebrate 4/20?
no.
006. Favorite ice cream?
Chocolate chip cookie dough
007. When was your last doctor's visit?
Almost two months ago.
008. Do you get the full 8 hours of sleep a night?
Hardly ever at all... and certainly not in a row.
010. Do you believe in 'True love at first sight'?
I think so... i put my all into one... relying that she does the same.
011. What do you think of global warming?
It is a real problem although it seems hard to realize what we can do to make the difference when so many people think that there is no problem at all.
012. If anyone came to your house on your "lazy days" what would they see?
They'd see more than they'd want to see... and not just talking about the mess...
014. Have you ever been on your school's track team?
I was the track team... so, um... yes. (200M in 24s: far from great, but my best fastest 200M)
015. Do you own a pair of Converse?
Not any more, although i did have a pair of origional weapons back in the day
017. Do you eat raw cookie dough?
Used to all the time, but now it just seems weird to go in the bakery and dip into the batter.
018. Have you ever kicked a vending machine
Yes... i don't think that it learned it's lesson.
019. Don't you hate when the radio ruins good songs by playing them over and over?
Sometimes, but then if the some is real good then it should sound good over and over again.
021. Do you watch Trading Spaces?
No, but it I have a book about the show.
022. How do you eat oreos?
I split them in half, peel off the white to eat, lick the rest off then eat the cookies one side at a time.
023. Do you ever stay online for a really long time waiting for someone?
I have... just for my wife and I am still waiting. But really, it's me waiting for her to get offline so I can get through to her!
024. Are you cocky?
Not so much.
030. Could you live without a computer?
Today- yes.
031. Do you wear your shoes in the house?
When I am ready to leave the house. The rest of the time it is preferred to be barefoot.
032. At what age did you find out Santa wasn't real?
He's real. What are you talking about!?
034. How many phones, house phones and cell phones are in your house?
That work? Eleven... and most of them don't work. Not bad considering my next door neighbor used to work for a phone company.
035. What do you do when you're sad?
Hold back the tears, draw in the walls, listen to the silence in my head, find some music.
036. Who would you call first if you won the lottery?
My wife...
037. Last time you saw your best friend?
At 6PM.
040. Who or what sleeps with you?
My best friend.
041. Are you/have you ever been in love?
I am.
043. How do you like your eggs?
Sunny side up with a slight yet firm run.
044. Are you in highschool?
No.
045. Is anyone on your bad side right now?
Yes.
046. What jewelry are you wearing?
The ring, and three necklaces.
047. What's the first thing you do when you get online?
Go to Caloriecount or Facebook.
049. Do you watch Grey's Anatomy?
Not any more. I never know when it is on and my TV reception isn't good due to where I live. I' really like to watch Lost.
050. How do most people spell your name?
Correctly.
051. Would you wear a boy/girlfriends clothes?
Yes. I am right now. Don't tell her!
056. What are you doing tomorrow?
Counting things at work.
057. Is Justin Timberlake becoming the next Michael Jackson?
Maybe musically, but he's a long way off from Neverland. MJ is in a catagory all of his own.
058. Favorite name for a girl?
I have a list... and some are in play.
059. Favorite name for a boy?
Same as #058.
060. Will you keep your last name when you get married?
Yes, and I did. Although I did change it before I got married.
061. Your favorite restaurant you don't get to eat much at?
Two places now... Crazy Pizza @ Risto and Barbeque Barn
062. When is the last time you left your house?
7:09AM, 18th July2008.
066. How do you like your steak?
Medium well. With a marker that says Medium well.
067. Do you return your cart?
It's about 50/50. I love to push it with force into the cart racks.
069. Do you have a dishwasher?
Yes. She is fabulous at it too!
070. What noise do you hear right now?
Bourne Ultimatum movie and my ceiling fan rotating with party streamers flapping.
071. Would you survive in prison?
I will survive!
072. Next concert you hope to go to?
Blue Men Group, Lenny Kravitz or Third Day.
073. What was the last thing you ate?
51g of Reese's Pieces with a Batman theme.
074. When was the last time you said I love you?
Around 8PM to my youngest son.
075. Who is the youngest in your family
Define 'your family'- Me, my brother or my daughter. All three are correct.
076. If all of your friends were going on a road trip, who would be most likely to go?
The Freakin Rican.
077. Do you know anyone with the same name as you?
Yes. Two others with my first and last name that I am aware of.
78. How many shoes do you own?
Too many. I used to sell footwear and would have more pairs if not limited by my wife. Smart wife.
080. When is the last time you ate peanut butter?
At 10:51pm today.
081. What brand is your cellphone?
Nokia
082. What's for dinner?
It was a yummy roast ham with pineapple and cherry filled glaze, side of cream potatoes and some carrots. I have a very good cook in the family.
083. What's the last thing you purchased?
Gas for the ride home.
084. Do your siblings ever pay for stuff for you?
No.
085. Where is your cell phone?
On the counter.
086. Is your phone on vibrate or ring?
Beeps once then vibrates.
087. What brand are your pants right now?
American Eagle.
088. Ever been to Georgia?
Yes.
089. Did you eat breakfast this morning?
Strawberries and a coffee-vanilla protein shake.
090. Do you like marshmallows?
Yes to flaming death quality.
091. What irritates you most on the internet?
How hard it can be to find some things and the unwanted ads and junk emails.
092. What brand is your digital camera?
Fuji.
093. Do you watch movies with your parents?
Not so much.
097. Do you own expensive perfume/cologne?
Yes.
101. Do you like sushi?
No. I don't like fish but would eat a non-fish related sushi item.
102. Do you get your hair cut every month?
Not quite. I try to keep it as it is a fleeting covering.
103. Do you go online everyday?
Just about everyday. 3-5 days of the week for 10-20 minutes.
That's a lot more about me than you might have expected to know or learn. I know that there are a couple of questions missing from the sequence (not for any reason in particular) so if you have a question you would like to see in there, then comment away.
001. Whens the last time you ran?
At our camp racing away from my oldest son!
002. Do your jeans have rips, tears, and holes in them?
Yes, one of my work pants has a hole right below the zipper.
03. What are you dreading right now?
counting things
004. Do you celebrate 4/20?
no.
006. Favorite ice cream?
Chocolate chip cookie dough
007. When was your last doctor's visit?
Almost two months ago.
008. Do you get the full 8 hours of sleep a night?
Hardly ever at all... and certainly not in a row.
010. Do you believe in 'True love at first sight'?
I think so... i put my all into one... relying that she does the same.
011. What do you think of global warming?
It is a real problem although it seems hard to realize what we can do to make the difference when so many people think that there is no problem at all.
012. If anyone came to your house on your "lazy days" what would they see?
They'd see more than they'd want to see... and not just talking about the mess...
014. Have you ever been on your school's track team?
I was the track team... so, um... yes. (200M in 24s: far from great, but my best fastest 200M)
015. Do you own a pair of Converse?
Not any more, although i did have a pair of origional weapons back in the day
017. Do you eat raw cookie dough?
Used to all the time, but now it just seems weird to go in the bakery and dip into the batter.
018. Have you ever kicked a vending machine
Yes... i don't think that it learned it's lesson.
019. Don't you hate when the radio ruins good songs by playing them over and over?
Sometimes, but then if the some is real good then it should sound good over and over again.
021. Do you watch Trading Spaces?
No, but it I have a book about the show.
022. How do you eat oreos?
I split them in half, peel off the white to eat, lick the rest off then eat the cookies one side at a time.
023. Do you ever stay online for a really long time waiting for someone?
I have... just for my wife and I am still waiting. But really, it's me waiting for her to get offline so I can get through to her!
024. Are you cocky?
Not so much.
030. Could you live without a computer?
Today- yes.
031. Do you wear your shoes in the house?
When I am ready to leave the house. The rest of the time it is preferred to be barefoot.
032. At what age did you find out Santa wasn't real?
He's real. What are you talking about!?
034. How many phones, house phones and cell phones are in your house?
That work? Eleven... and most of them don't work. Not bad considering my next door neighbor used to work for a phone company.
035. What do you do when you're sad?
Hold back the tears, draw in the walls, listen to the silence in my head, find some music.
036. Who would you call first if you won the lottery?
My wife...
037. Last time you saw your best friend?
At 6PM.
040. Who or what sleeps with you?
My best friend.
041. Are you/have you ever been in love?
I am.
043. How do you like your eggs?
Sunny side up with a slight yet firm run.
044. Are you in highschool?
No.
045. Is anyone on your bad side right now?
Yes.
046. What jewelry are you wearing?
The ring, and three necklaces.
047. What's the first thing you do when you get online?
Go to Caloriecount or Facebook.
049. Do you watch Grey's Anatomy?
Not any more. I never know when it is on and my TV reception isn't good due to where I live. I' really like to watch Lost.
050. How do most people spell your name?
Correctly.
051. Would you wear a boy/girlfriends clothes?
Yes. I am right now. Don't tell her!
056. What are you doing tomorrow?
Counting things at work.
057. Is Justin Timberlake becoming the next Michael Jackson?
Maybe musically, but he's a long way off from Neverland. MJ is in a catagory all of his own.
058. Favorite name for a girl?
I have a list... and some are in play.
059. Favorite name for a boy?
Same as #058.
060. Will you keep your last name when you get married?
Yes, and I did. Although I did change it before I got married.
061. Your favorite restaurant you don't get to eat much at?
Two places now... Crazy Pizza @ Risto and Barbeque Barn
062. When is the last time you left your house?
7:09AM, 18th July2008.
066. How do you like your steak?
Medium well. With a marker that says Medium well.
067. Do you return your cart?
It's about 50/50. I love to push it with force into the cart racks.
069. Do you have a dishwasher?
Yes. She is fabulous at it too!
070. What noise do you hear right now?
Bourne Ultimatum movie and my ceiling fan rotating with party streamers flapping.
071. Would you survive in prison?
I will survive!
072. Next concert you hope to go to?
Blue Men Group, Lenny Kravitz or Third Day.
073. What was the last thing you ate?
51g of Reese's Pieces with a Batman theme.
074. When was the last time you said I love you?
Around 8PM to my youngest son.
075. Who is the youngest in your family
Define 'your family'- Me, my brother or my daughter. All three are correct.
076. If all of your friends were going on a road trip, who would be most likely to go?
The Freakin Rican.
077. Do you know anyone with the same name as you?
Yes. Two others with my first and last name that I am aware of.
78. How many shoes do you own?
Too many. I used to sell footwear and would have more pairs if not limited by my wife. Smart wife.
080. When is the last time you ate peanut butter?
At 10:51pm today.
081. What brand is your cellphone?
Nokia
082. What's for dinner?
It was a yummy roast ham with pineapple and cherry filled glaze, side of cream potatoes and some carrots. I have a very good cook in the family.
083. What's the last thing you purchased?
Gas for the ride home.
084. Do your siblings ever pay for stuff for you?
No.
085. Where is your cell phone?
On the counter.
086. Is your phone on vibrate or ring?
Beeps once then vibrates.
087. What brand are your pants right now?
American Eagle.
088. Ever been to Georgia?
Yes.
089. Did you eat breakfast this morning?
Strawberries and a coffee-vanilla protein shake.
090. Do you like marshmallows?
Yes to flaming death quality.
091. What irritates you most on the internet?
How hard it can be to find some things and the unwanted ads and junk emails.
092. What brand is your digital camera?
Fuji.
093. Do you watch movies with your parents?
Not so much.
097. Do you own expensive perfume/cologne?
Yes.
101. Do you like sushi?
No. I don't like fish but would eat a non-fish related sushi item.
102. Do you get your hair cut every month?
Not quite. I try to keep it as it is a fleeting covering.
103. Do you go online everyday?
Just about everyday. 3-5 days of the week for 10-20 minutes.
That's a lot more about me than you might have expected to know or learn. I know that there are a couple of questions missing from the sequence (not for any reason in particular) so if you have a question you would like to see in there, then comment away.
10 May 2008
Measure Of This Man
In a slow manner I've begun to read The Measure of a Man by Gene Getz. This book is not the book of his that I wanted to start reading (he has written a few) but it is the one I know I need to read first. I have the 17th printing (1964) edition with 218 pages to get through.
The challenge is this: the format. Each chapter is self contained with a personal project at the end to develop a particular quality and make it a part of my life. This will hopefully be a productive springboard in a continuing journey.
I progress.
The challenge is this: the format. Each chapter is self contained with a personal project at the end to develop a particular quality and make it a part of my life. This will hopefully be a productive springboard in a continuing journey.
I progress.
The Return
Tax time for most is a dreaded time of year. Scrounging up paperwork, records... figuring out the totals... did the one get carried... do I get a refund or do I owe. For me, I never like this time of year, not because of the fear of owing... (just the hassle of gathering all of the needed figures and records). Having a look back at a years worth of transactions can uncover a lot of truth and emotion. 2007 was a rough year overall and the transactions show it. Why I don't like this time of year is I can file away the figures but I cannot file away the emotions. I wish... I wish... I wish... someday,... maybe?
01 March 2008
Getting dumped
Today it is going to snow. Do you know how much we are going to get? It starting to become a challenge to figure out exactly how much we are supposed to get. At this point of the year, any amount is too much.
I am listening to weather reports on the radio stations and they are all saying the same thing these days. I know that they all get their reports from Environment Canada and that the stations I am listening to are owned by the same company, but I am not interested in doing math to figure out exactly how much snow to expect.
They said today. Up to 2cm in the morning. 2 to 5cm in the afternoon with a winter storm advisory in the afternoon followed by 10 to 15cm overnight. Then another 2to 4cm the next morning.
So are we really expecting 16 to 26cm over the course of the day? Are they spreading the snow out over the day to give themselves something to talk about? Or would it be more sensational to talk about the Blizzard of `08! March is roaring in like a lion, but they are making it seem like it's a stuffed toy. Roar.
I am listening to weather reports on the radio stations and they are all saying the same thing these days. I know that they all get their reports from Environment Canada and that the stations I am listening to are owned by the same company, but I am not interested in doing math to figure out exactly how much snow to expect.
They said today. Up to 2cm in the morning. 2 to 5cm in the afternoon with a winter storm advisory in the afternoon followed by 10 to 15cm overnight. Then another 2to 4cm the next morning.
So are we really expecting 16 to 26cm over the course of the day? Are they spreading the snow out over the day to give themselves something to talk about? Or would it be more sensational to talk about the Blizzard of `08! March is roaring in like a lion, but they are making it seem like it's a stuffed toy. Roar.
Am I too pretty?
The below article is from a Tampa Bay newspaper report this week. Do you think they were too pretty or just victims of their own circumstances? How do you go about determining who is too pretty? What do you use to measure the level of prettiness? Do you have to stand beside a Richard Simmons cutout and pretty it out for boarding judges? Guess we'll have to drive if we want to get around the southwest!
Prejudice against pretty?
That's the claim from a pair of 18-year-old best friends from Oldsmar who were escorted off a Southwest Airlines plane.
USF student Nisreen Swedberg and friend Sarah Williams claim the flight crew was rude to them from the moment they stepped onto the plane at Tampa International Airport on February 14.
Swedberg said she asked a flight attendant for a bottle of water and was told she could wait until the rest of the flight was served.
“And I patiently waited and then when they came around with water, they skipped me,” Swedberg said.
At one point, Williams had to use the plane's bathroom. She saw another passenger in it, and when he hadn't come out 15 minutes later, she knocked on the door.
When he came out, Williams says the man came over to her seat and yelled a profanity at her. Williams admits she yelled a profanity back at him but was puzzled when she says the flight crew only questioned her.
“I think they were just discriminating against because we were young decent-looking girls. I mean, nobody else on the plane looked like us except us,” she said. “[The flight attendants] were like older ladies. We were younger. Who knows, they could have been just jealous of us because we were younger.”
Southwest defends the incident, saying the women caused a disruption on the flight.
When the plane landed in Los Angeles, the women were escorted off by four uniformed police officers and later questioned by the FBI.
Nearly two hours later, the women were released. No charges were filed.
Still, Williams and Swedberg say they were banned from all future Southwest Airlines flights, including their scheduled flight home to Tampa.
Swedberg spent $419.50 on a one-way return ticket and arrived at TIA on Monday. Williams is still in Los Angeles trying to find a cheaper flight home. She hopes to be back to Tampa by Saturday.
15 October 2007
Roll The Dice
Coming up snake eyes
The surveillance car turned chase car turned wait car
Feet, just waiting
I am still at Odell Park. I have been passing time by for about an 90 minutes and still have over 90 minutes more to wait. The longest wait in my life. The biggest gamble of my life.
I am very dysfunctional, I think if I have an idea of what I want in life I can be very methodical. I can clearly see the steps or processes needed to make that happen. I can see the outcomes and I feel I can influence what happens. It is a great feeling when this is successful. Structured, within expected time frames, little to nothing overlooked. This is a big contrast from how I was brought up in my youth. I love my parents but life didn't present the opportunity for them to stay together, and I was raised by my mother, who did a great job considering what she was working with. Very little structure as a result. Which is fine.
For as structured as I like things to be, I love chaos a lot more. I like to gamble. Not so much with money, but with life decisions. I have an instinct for making correct choices at the correct time. I credit this to God. Always. He has had such a huge hand in my life. Timing is everything! So very true. I am impulsive. I have no problem be spontaneous (especially when the mood suits). I would often times in college get up one morning, grab my bag, music and a book or two and head down to the bus station and go just any random place a day would take me. No itinerary, no plan. Just go and enjoy. Out of my control as to what would happen, what I would see or do, but it was okay and fun.
Not at all like today.
Today, I feel like it's such a crap shoot. Everything has been planned by other people. I don't know the whole plan. But I am told bits about it and then find out more, than more, than more. I am told one thing than see another happen. So frustrating! Hard to trust. Hard to believe. Even harder when I am asked to step back an let nature take its course. Fuck. I did so much to persuade and convince, so that the right 'us' scenario happens. All I want is the best. I feel helpless, so utterly helpless. I have actions I can take, but it won't bring me the result I am looking for. The risk is too high to pursue those options. I need to be trusted as much as my trust needs to be given. I am willing to do so. I just cry out to my Lord that the same will be returned.
Rely on each other for life. Tough to do when people are so independent and have their own ulterior motives for taking the steps they take. Here I am waiting. I feel helpless, like I'm being taken advantage of. I feel alone. I see three outcomes and I only like one of them. I feel it won't be the outcome that happens. Sucks.
I have prepared for the moment. I have done my research. I know all the outcomes. I pray to God I have made the right choice. I am so afraid that I have not. And having rolled the dice, I feel foolish.
Tomorrow might be a bigger gamble. One I hadn't counted on. Like, I'll be taken advantage of. Sucks.
Originally written: 15 August 2007 @ 3:31PM
08 July 2007
Yes Or No?
When to Say "Yes" and When to Say "No"
By Michael Masterson
I make a lot of commitments that unnecessarily add stress to my life. Why I find it so difficult to say "no," I can't say. But it's something I'm teaching myself to do.
The first step is to figure out when to say "yes" and when to say "no." Here's what I've come up with...
1. Say "yes" - often but not always - to two people: your spouse and your business partner.
2. Say "no" - as often as you possibly can - to everyone who asks you for help. This would include:
your lazy colleague
your shiftless friend
your spoiled children/grandchildren
your most self-centered customers
anyone who isn't willing to give back
Here's something else you can do to lighten your load and maintain your forward momentum:
Write a list of 20 things - people, situations, responsibilities - that cause you stress.
Reduce that list to 10.
Reduce it again to three.
Now pick one of those three - and stop doing it.
If you are like me, the thing that is creating the most stress in your life right now is something you are doing to help out someone who doesn't deserve it. And if you're like me, you feel guilty about even thinking about stopping.
Do yourself a favor. Call him up right now and tell him very definitively that you are going to stop doing it at the end of this day/week/month/year. Offer a simple explanation. Don't feel the need to elaborate. If he objects, say "I'm sorry that this will be inconvenient for you. I am sure you will be fine in the end. But the decision has been made."
And stick to it.
Try it. You'll be amazed at how good it makes you feel. Do that and don't take on another responsibility for at least 24 hours.
This article appears courtesy of Early To Rise, the Internet’s most popular health, wealth, and success e-zine. For a complimentary subscription, visit http://www.earlytorise.com.
Not too bad advice. I am on track with agreeing with his statement on saying yes often but not always to your wife, which is something I have always tried to do but sometimes it is harder to do than others and ends up in discord... something for another post, in my head.
On his line about making a list of the 20 things, then reducing it, then again... I just don't see how that works. There have got to be certain circumstances where that is not possible to 'reduce the stress', particularily if it involves family or friends. I know I have some things beening done around me that are causing me stress and I would love for them to be stopped and have even tried to put an end to them -to no such luck, the things are still going on and I am still being stressed about them (along with other things). Maybe he is talking about something different. Not saying it cannot be done, just not sure how it can work.
By Michael Masterson
I make a lot of commitments that unnecessarily add stress to my life. Why I find it so difficult to say "no," I can't say. But it's something I'm teaching myself to do.
The first step is to figure out when to say "yes" and when to say "no." Here's what I've come up with...
1. Say "yes" - often but not always - to two people: your spouse and your business partner.
2. Say "no" - as often as you possibly can - to everyone who asks you for help. This would include:
your lazy colleague
your shiftless friend
your spoiled children/grandchildren
your most self-centered customers
anyone who isn't willing to give back
Here's something else you can do to lighten your load and maintain your forward momentum:
Write a list of 20 things - people, situations, responsibilities - that cause you stress.
Reduce that list to 10.
Reduce it again to three.
Now pick one of those three - and stop doing it.
If you are like me, the thing that is creating the most stress in your life right now is something you are doing to help out someone who doesn't deserve it. And if you're like me, you feel guilty about even thinking about stopping.
Do yourself a favor. Call him up right now and tell him very definitively that you are going to stop doing it at the end of this day/week/month/year. Offer a simple explanation. Don't feel the need to elaborate. If he objects, say "I'm sorry that this will be inconvenient for you. I am sure you will be fine in the end. But the decision has been made."
And stick to it.
Try it. You'll be amazed at how good it makes you feel. Do that and don't take on another responsibility for at least 24 hours.
This article appears courtesy of Early To Rise, the Internet’s most popular health, wealth, and success e-zine. For a complimentary subscription, visit http://www.earlytorise.com.
Not too bad advice. I am on track with agreeing with his statement on saying yes often but not always to your wife, which is something I have always tried to do but sometimes it is harder to do than others and ends up in discord... something for another post, in my head.
On his line about making a list of the 20 things, then reducing it, then again... I just don't see how that works. There have got to be certain circumstances where that is not possible to 'reduce the stress', particularily if it involves family or friends. I know I have some things beening done around me that are causing me stress and I would love for them to be stopped and have even tried to put an end to them -to no such luck, the things are still going on and I am still being stressed about them (along with other things). Maybe he is talking about something different. Not saying it cannot be done, just not sure how it can work.
30 June 2007
What Are You Working For?
A job is only a short-term solution to a long-term problem. Most people have only one problem in mind, and it's short term. It's the bills at the end of the month. Money now runs their lives. They have created a pattern of get up, go to work, pay bills, get up, go to work, pay bills. You say you are different than everyone else? Are you saying, "I'm not interested in money."? Then why are you working at a job for eight (or more!) hours a day? There is a denial of truth- if you weren't interested in money, then why are you working?
Most of the time life does not talk to you. It just sort of pushes you around. Each push is life saying, 'Wake up. There is something I want you to learn.'. If you learn life's lessons, you will do well. If not, life will just continue to push you around. People do two things. Some just let life push them around. Others get angry and push back. But they push back against their boss, or their job, or their husband or wife or common law partner. They do not know it's life that's pushing. Some give up. Others fight. A few learn the lesson and move on. They welcome life pushing them around. To these few people, it means they need and want to learn something. If you learn the lesson then you will grow into a wise, wealthy and happy person. If you don't you will spend your life blaming a job, low pay or your boss for your problems. You'll live life hoping for that big break that will solve all your money problems.
Or if you're the kind of person who has no guts, you just give up every time life pushes you. If you're that kind of person, you'll live all your life playing it safe, doing the right things, saving yourself for some event that never happens. Then, you die a boring, old person. You'll have lots of friends who really like you (facebook???) because you were such a nice hard-working person. You spent a life playing it safe, doing the right things. But the truth is, you let life push you into submission. You chose to play it safe.
What will you do?
Most of the time life does not talk to you. It just sort of pushes you around. Each push is life saying, 'Wake up. There is something I want you to learn.'. If you learn life's lessons, you will do well. If not, life will just continue to push you around. People do two things. Some just let life push them around. Others get angry and push back. But they push back against their boss, or their job, or their husband or wife or common law partner. They do not know it's life that's pushing. Some give up. Others fight. A few learn the lesson and move on. They welcome life pushing them around. To these few people, it means they need and want to learn something. If you learn the lesson then you will grow into a wise, wealthy and happy person. If you don't you will spend your life blaming a job, low pay or your boss for your problems. You'll live life hoping for that big break that will solve all your money problems.
Or if you're the kind of person who has no guts, you just give up every time life pushes you. If you're that kind of person, you'll live all your life playing it safe, doing the right things, saving yourself for some event that never happens. Then, you die a boring, old person. You'll have lots of friends who really like you (facebook???) because you were such a nice hard-working person. You spent a life playing it safe, doing the right things. But the truth is, you let life push you into submission. You chose to play it safe.
What will you do?
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